According to Chinese culture, a kind boss should treat domestic workers as family members.
This is why some Hong Kong employers often ask their domestic workers to take food freely from the refrigerator and invite their maids to have dinner together with the family at the same table.
However, domestic workers may have different views. They may prefer not to take any food from the refrigerator for themselves and have their dinner alone in the kitchen. Many of them intend to keep a distance from their bosses.
It is hard for some Hong Kong employers to understand why their kind suggestions are rejected.
Fortunately, a woman has finally solved her long-standing puzzlement about her domestic worker’s meal preferences after she talked to some Filipino maids.
She realised that her intention to provide good food to her domestic workers might not have been the best idea, as many maids prefer to get the standard food allowance of HK$1,053 (US$135) and make their favorite dishes such as adobo, which consists of meat or seafood in vinegar and soy sauce.
Many domestic workers intend to keep a distance from their bosses as a way to show their respects. Some others are worried that a close relationship may come with a heavier workload. Many maids prefer to take their dinner in the kitchen alone simply because they want a private time after a full day of work.
Thinking from the domestic workers’ perspectives is what an employer should do.
(Updated at 11:50pm on Dec. 15, 2017)
Nawa lahat ng employers katulad nya.. I salute u MADAM..more power to u and GODBLESS u and ur family always..
I’m so blessed to have a very nice and a very kind employer..I thank the Lord for having them.
I salute u madam,,,your one of a kind????????????God bless you,,,,
Yes its true me im ashamed also to eat with them together i prefer to be alone
Chris Oniuqa basta may helper k as a employer obligasyon mo yun s helper mo . Hindi dapat pagdamutan or tipirin .dhil pag ngkasakit ang helper mo wla n mglilinis .????
We are Indonesian is the same sepcialy we are moshly Muslim don’t eathing pork..we are prefer to eathing alone some of them use the own money to spend good food to eathing daily becouse them afraid the employer will hate mad…..end terminit them that the fear of the Indonesia. ..Like you know we work here for the familly home ???I hope All the employer like this Mr…we are work very loyal persons. …
Of course other employers will definitely read this article but they will still refuse to give allowances because they think a thousand is too much..they prefer their helper eat left over.
RC Rubi Canlas kung sa tingin po Nila ta_____ mga DH, E mas ta______ yung nag hire na employer, just saying:)
Most of the helpers prefer to eat in the kitchen rather than to eat with their employer????
Sana mabasa ng ibang employer n sobrang GREEDY SA HELPER nila hindi komo helper dto s hongkong eh tanga un ang akala nila. I salute to this kind of employer GOD BLESS YOU MA’AM.
Miss Chen, you like my Boss they treat me like a Family member..we eat TOGETHER in OUR dinning table..we Pray TOGETHER before we eat.????
Buti p nga yan free kumuha ng pagkain nla hehe samantalang dito sa amo ko kht itlog d pede kubg mgluto cla ska lng h..nbbsa nmn ng mga amo yan they just pretend not to know …
Kind employer who cares. For her helper.
She so lucky to have a boss like you mam
because not all the employer have the same thinking some they treat you as family but most of all they want to see how many that the helper eated. Sometimes why we’re not get any food from the fridge because some employer they said you can eat anything then once the helper ate the food the employer looking for that food, helper can satisfied what ever for they have as long as it came from the heart and dont think that all the food the u eaten we never eat we ate also even we’re in the philippines but not more often like here
Hopefully the other employers can read this article so that they will do the same thing to their helpers.
God Bless you madam
Wow how i wish to have an employer like u mam????
salute to all good employer like u mam.ur helper was so blessed for having a very understanding employer.
Sana mabasa to ng amo ko. I tried to ask her for my food allowance because i wanted to eat filipino food but my request was declined. They even talk to my agent in the agency and my agent said no need to give me my food allowance. I was hurt but i said it’s ok. Hope they will come across this article and read it..
Yeah thats true domt get us wrong if we dont wanna eat together with you,not because we hate u but we cannot eat properly cuz as a filipino we are usually shy type eating with other people