According to Chinese culture, a kind boss should treat domestic workers as family members.
This is why some Hong Kong employers often ask their domestic workers to take food freely from the refrigerator and invite their maids to have dinner together with the family at the same table.
However, domestic workers may have different views. They may prefer not to take any food from the refrigerator for themselves and have their dinner alone in the kitchen. Many of them intend to keep a distance from their bosses.
It is hard for some Hong Kong employers to understand why their kind suggestions are rejected.
Fortunately, a woman has finally solved her long-standing puzzlement about her domestic worker’s meal preferences after she talked to some Filipino maids.
She realised that her intention to provide good food to her domestic workers might not have been the best idea, as many maids prefer to get the standard food allowance of HK$1,053 (US$135) and make their favorite dishes such as adobo, which consists of meat or seafood in vinegar and soy sauce.
Many domestic workers intend to keep a distance from their bosses as a way to show their respects. Some others are worried that a close relationship may come with a heavier workload. Many maids prefer to take their dinner in the kitchen alone simply because they want a private time after a full day of work.
Thinking from the domestic workers’ perspectives is what an employer should do.
(Updated at 11:50pm on Dec. 15, 2017)
Di kc uso ang serving spoon sa ilang amo….yun ang isang rason
Hahaha so true
What? I never heard of an employer here in HK ever wanting their maids provide good food. If there are but only to watch them which makes them all the more not able to eat as should.. Been here more than 2o years, I have yet to know og one Chinese employer who invites and provides food preferred by maids. Mostly are not even given food equal to their supposed monthly food allowance. That;s what is common.
Yeah…
For Indonesian too
we have the same reason????
I buy my own food for breakfast and lunch, I only can eat thier food, in dinner, they suppose not to hire a helper if they are not doing the right and proper treatment to their helper ,that’s why I need to save more money for my own food, its sad to think on this kind of employer.But GOD always provide for my Food, Amen.
Kun ayaw nila ibigay ang food allowance kun. Kulang nga ang pagkain its better na wag u kainin bumili kayo ng food nyo ipunin ang resibo at i refund nyo nyo in the end of the month tapos.pag ayaw ibigay i report sa labor aba terminate kun terminate kaysa naman mamatay sa gutom.
Hope my employer can read this
sakin nman dito sa amo ko dati madamot cla sakin sa pagkain but I fights my rights that I need to eat to and enough sleep so that I have a strength to do my job on them after that maging ok nmn ang tulog ko at kain ko sa kanila until now….maybe sometimes we need to voice in our part namn kung minsan kung talaga nga nmang nagpapakatangahan cla…
Mostly nga ang mga
amo dito greedy magbigay ng pagkain s ktulong Kagaya s akin kung saan buto sk ibigay s akin 24 oras p Ang trabaho MLK nga Ang shod bogbog Ang Ktwan s mdming trabaho Sana maaksyonan n to ng consulado n maibigay Ang allowance s ktulong
Salamat sa Dios nakatagpo din ako ng very kind ma amo di gaya ng amo ko jan sa HK grabe
Very well said…ganito tlga tayo mga pilipino pero na mis interpret lng nila..
Well for me I ate dinner w my employers and that’s the time we communicate about the kids ,and food preferences,and about everything
through communication you have a good relationship between your boss and a worker
Becoz they likes bangoos fish..totally????
Laking pasalamat ko kse open sa pagkain ang amo ko talagang pamilya turing nila skin.pwd pa akong mag invite ng friends.
The main reason why helpers specially filipina, we doesn’t like to eat with the employer because most of the employers are not using serving spoon they are using to pick the food they want using their own chopsticks and the worse is they are cleaning their teeth using toothpicks while others are still eating its disgusting
Amo ko mabait…nakakain ko kahit ano dto sa bahay nila… sabi ni among babae… don’t use ure money to buy ur foods…WE are the one who provide food for you…We hire you ,you are now a member of our family….O dba nakakataba ng puso…kaya sinusuklian ko nmn ng kabutihan at paggalang…5 yrs ko na dto sa amo ko….salamat sa Dios at nakatagpo ako ng Among mababait…
very nice Pilipino foods
Im just so lucky to have my employers letting me eat their food cook watever i want because they would also eat it even filipino dishes. Eating with them and having a closer bond doesnt always mean more work or heavy loads of work. We helpers should also weigh and feel how your employer treats you. Give and take lang po. If they treat you right and as a family let them feel also your treating them the same way and dnt always feel evrything you do is for money. Mas magaan po if gagawa kayo dhl gusto nio just like serving your own family back home mas magaan po kc kpg ganun.
Much better if they give our food allowance bcuz we could eat what we want, and please let us sleep 8hrs..we work more than 18hrs everyday our health is not like a superhero that they can reboost there energy as they please so my dearest employer let us rest early we are human..
Di ako makakain ng marami at magkamay if kasalo ko sila,hahaha. Sa room ko ako kumakain habang mood ng teleserye.
Ako nag request naging solution eh 300$ per month daw.Grabe
Right and dnt get us wrong because sometimes u dont use serving spoon on ur table.u use chopstick mixing the food to ur mouth and use as serving utensils instead of puting some serving sticks or spoon.????????????????
Hmm im not pointing in general but thats the one reason why we prefer to eat alone yeah!????????????
How I wish all employer could read this articles or if some can read and understand they would love to share the reason why helper prefer to have the food allowance that was written in the contract.feeling sad bcoz instead of having the net salary of 4310 but helper will need to buy coffee bread biscuit while food allowance is in the pocket of employer????