What kind of relationship should an employer have with a domestic worker? A Hong Kong columnist surnamed Pang who writes on parenting issues shared her recent experience on Ming Pao Daily, and said mutual understanding could improve the relationship, especially when your maid gets sick.
A Filipino domestic worker named Ate, who is a Muslim, had been working for Pang’s family for less than a year. Before coming to Hong Kong, she worked for a big Indian family who lived in a 5,000-square-f00t (465-square-meter) house in Malaysia.
Recently, members of Pang’s family got sick one after another because of an influenza outbreak. Her son became so seriously ill that he needed to be admitted to hospital.
At this point, Ate finally recognized the seriousness of the flu virus and agreed to listen to Pang’s advice. She abandoned her traditional “secret” herbal tea, went to a doctor and and took modern medication.
Pang said that when her son was released from the hospital, she found that Ate had been confining herself in her room, as the doctor had ordered her not to spread the virus around, so she did not dare to go into the kitchen and prepare any food for herself because she did not want to see her employers get sick again.
Pang then realized that Ate had only had fruits and bread to eat over the past few days while she and her husband were staying in the hospital to take care of their son. Upon this realization, Pang decided to prepare dinner for her.
Ate was touched and cried when she saw Pang had cooked for her.
Working far away from home and family, when a domestic worker gets sick, the only comfort she gets is from phone calls from home. If her own children get sick, there is no way she can take care of them, not even give them a hug.
Pang advised employers to show empathy for their domestic workers. When they get sick, ask them to rest properly, or prepare food for them. In that way, the employer-employee relationship will improve.
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good employer,,how i could wish that all employer have desame heart..
Hope that all employers have heart like this.
Very lucky to have one kind of an employer, so keep it. We can count a few who have that kind of gestures to their helper. God bless you Sir/Madam!????
seldom can find a good employers, have concern with the helpers, mostly dont care and rude. if you have these employer, be thankful and dont abuse their kindness. always remember, what u sow is what u reap. .
I’m so lucky
My employer treat me as there family
When I’m sick they let me take a rest
Time to time they checking me if I’m OK
If I need something
THANK YOU MAM…YOU HAVE A GOOD HEART…ITS VERY NICE TO HEAR THAT FROM HK EMPLOYER..GOD BLESS
lucky my employer is like this I got sick and they till me to get rest no need to do work. I thank them for being kind. my God bless this all kind employers
GOD IS GOOD.
So kind the employer…I remember when I’m newly employ to my boss 3days working with her family I get sick..she let me to go down and take rest in my boardinghouse without any food allowance or a money can buy some medicine..or let me to use my health insurance..after 12days when im under recovery because I feel very weak tsaka lang nagyaya na ipa check up nya ako dhil kailangang-kailangan na nya daw ako..so sad!?!
your rmployer have good heart
My employer for 15yrs treat me also as 1 of the family member, when i got sick he ask me to stay in my room to take a rest and he is the one to buy our food.. sometime we also eat all together in the restaurant.. all family members good to me… (Liu family)..
I am so blessed with employer like this(Mr.and Mrs.Law)..who had been so supportive and caring ever since I started working,in their family…when I had problem with my husband without any discussion they let me go home for two months,to make sure or be sure my family will be OK..then they waited for me..after4years I been confined for 3days in the hospital,I never felt I’m a maid or another person in their family,they cook for me and offer more food and let me rest early..until now iwill be finishing my 8years with them same attitude,relationship..truly respect and care would let any relationship longer..thank and praise God for giving me this family..
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Same as my employer. My employer are so nice to me. They’re helping me in households chores and taking care of me while I’m sick.
U are the luckiest one if u have a good emplyoer like pangs fmlys cause in abroad wrking as d.h…very rare only emplyer that have a good heart to her maids…
Mababait dn sa ugali at pakikisama mga amo q ung dka binubulyawan inaabuso pero pag may karamdaman aq prnf wla clang pake kesyo dw may sapat nman aq rest after ng work bcoz lastym nagask tlga aq na iba ung nara2daman q nahihilo kya nag ask aq need q pakita doctors bnp aq ni babae un taas ng bp q dali dali nya pinapunta clinic hypertension diagnos tpz sabi nya un if hypertension dw need ng rest why dw eh after dw ng work q nkpgpa2hinga nman aq kya un lang ang pangit na ugali nila about if helper nila may krmdaman un sasagot. But thanks God nlng aq at ginagabayan nya aq plagi now ok na bp q bck to normal.
Iam lucky that my boss give me time to rest when im ill,been working for them for 13 yrs…they are my 2nd family….thnk you so much Lam Family????????????
I salute and admire you madam employer…
That’s my boss surname too. And forme
my boss is a best boss ever.
Swertehan talaga sa magiging amo… Sana lahat ng amo may mabuting kalooban gaya ng amo ni ate…
It doesnt mean its bec they treat u good they are a part of there family. They only treat u good bec that’s the way it should be. Dont do ur job and see if u will not be scolded
Recently I had a pain on my left foot, a gout attack the doctor said. I can barely walk and my madam saw me when she came out from her room. She helped me then to put the dirty clothes to the washing machine and even helped me sweep the floor. She’s hands on when the need arises. God bless her more and her family… I’m so blessed by what she did!
It happened to me when I got chickenpox, jailed in my room for almost 2 weeks..
Since I came to HK for work, I thank God that I did have a very good employers that really treated me as their family members up to now with my current employer , I get treated well as one member of the family. And I pay back with honesty and dedication to what ever job they asked me to do. So I think that’s how good relationship begins to a servant and master. Understanding each others needs is very important.
God bless you sir…for you know the feelings of being away from home…wish all employers will do the same
After Ng 3 years k sa amo at nag break ako,saka nila natutunan Kung paano pahalagahan ang isang tao…now pinabalik ulit ako at natutu na,now masaya kmi parang isang pamilya…
Super relate ako dyn kc mga boss ko gnyn cl nkbait at pno nl ko algaan..
No harm in hoping…
Thats how our employer do when one of the helper sick madamprepare food for us too…
Biktima na ako nito sobra sobra pa…naloko na nga ako… ako pa ang sirang sira sa mga tao na kesyo ako may atraso..Pero cge lang hindi natutulog ang Diyos…
My employer is talking to me about how i am in their house. They asking me if i feel unhappy just tell to them.
How I wish all employers will be like that…Some employers are very generous and kind to their helpers and some are not…
After my daily routine , vacuuming., mopping, dusting, washing clothes, tidying, I also wanted to sit down and rest ,I was embarrassed when she said" che che No sit down La, find your work"
How I wish she would say,"Che che you can take a rest once you finished your work….Helpers need a rest…
She’s very kind employer,very understanding,working w empliyer like her,was a indeed blessing
Your good employer..hope many of you have a good heart to us…your maid
Libra de Chinita sis true
Such a kind hearted employer. Thank you ma’am.
I salute you Madam Pang for being very understanding to the situation and your kindness is very much appreciated. I worked for my bosses for 33 yrs and they are kind and lovable people like you do. How I wish that more employer do the same so that harmony will be always between employer and employee.
Good employer, have concerned and consideration to her househelper health condition.. May have more employer like Mr. &Mrs. Pang..
Thnx madam for being a good employer…i hope other employers will follow what u have done….mostly really dont care…my boss is one of them…
Absolutely this good employer
Woooow! Nakaka, touched naman. Hoping, lahat ng employer katulad ng Pang’s family. GOD BLESS your heart Maam.
E di wow good job employer