An employer who posted on social media that she had forbidden her Filipino maid from talking directly to the man of the house – the employer’s husband – has provoked heated discussion among netizens.
The woman said she had set the house rule from the first day, Sky Post reported, adding that she was the middle person for all communication between “Sir” and the domestic worker.
She went on that the maid had violated the rule at the beginning and had been scolded, after which violation of the “don’t talk to Sir” rule was not repeated.
A friend argued with her, saying she had infringed on her domestic worker’s rights, and the woman was upset by this comment. But she insisted she was the boss and so she could set whatever house rules she liked.
Netizens slammed her as an arrogant employer who treated her maid like a slave.
However, Joan Tsui Hiu-tung, convener of the Support Group for Hong Kong Employers, agreed with the one-decision-maker arrangement as it could avoid the issuance of conflicting instructions for the maid.
Tsui said she had heard from male employers who said they didn’t know how to handle situations when their domestic workers complained or made tearful requests.
Hong Kong Union of Employment Agencies chairman Thomas Chan said some female employers worried that their husbands would have affairs with their maids, and therefore they would set some harsh house rules.
Chan said this type of employer usually changed maids very often.
He also reminded domestic workers that they should keep their female employers as well informed as possible to avoid any jealousy.

The solution in this case would be
" dont hire a helper," period.
It’s actually ok for me, if madam is out and husband want me to do some errands, I will reply back "don’t talk to me sir, No.1 rule madam
Told me, ask you’r wife first and I’ll wait for madam to relay what you want me to do???????????? If I follow you now, madam would know you talk to me and I talk to you???????????????? so ill wait for madam to tell me …LOL..
If I’m her helper I’m going to tell my boss like "Sir don’t talk me cuz I don’t like you" in front of his wife???? "we are not compatible..I’m a tiger and you’re a snake" hahaha
Naku naku its so irritated, kung nagseselos sa helper di wag na sila kumuha ng helper… Sila na lahat gumawa ng gawaing bahay… Sila na magbantay ng anak nila. Kisa naman kukuha sila helper, helper pahirapan… Duh
Then if my male employer asking me something i will take my revenge, i just simple look at him. And turn my back without saying anything..stupid maam so insecure..put your man inside ur pocket and lock it..then nobody can steal.
wala tiwala sa tao.baka gawain nya hehehe
Mkitid utak ng gnyang amo ,c mam ko nkikita pa nya pinicturan ako ni sir at ipinapakita ni sir Kay mam itsura ko n subrang boring kahihintay ng lolo sa banko ,grabe pa tawa ni mam ko ..kya mhirap gnyang ugali ng amo ..
Don’t hire a maid thats it.Crazy do the household chores on your own.
No need to hire helper crazy employer
maids are more beautiful and attractive than them???????? thats why they always felt inserured????????
Why they hire a maid? They should not. I know some employer around here where u stay. They dont have helper. Sick!
to solve the problem dont get any maid…
Sa mga maniac na among lalaki,applicable ang ganyan.pero sa mga disenteng among lalaki at well educated di pwede yan.
She’s absolutely crazy????????
Ggggggrrrrrrr. Stupid house rule.
Ahahaha!!! Jealousy! Jealousy! Madam employer is so obviously insecure.
That kind of attitudes is not acceptable..she dont trust her husband and the helper…
worst is she dont trust herself either.
Langga Ko sana bawal din tumingin c among lalaki sa helper.haha
Matinding ugali ng Madam na yan.insecured.dapat ung pangit ang kunin ñang helper para di sya insecured.or its better to those kind of madams not to hire helpers.mga banoy na ingkit.kulang-kulang.
I remember my first female employer..they live in a 700 sq.ft so i am sharing with her youngest son w/c is 7yrs.old that time..everytime the door is open at night nka angry face na yan kinabukasan..gaga siya kala nya ini open ko yun dahil andyan asawa nya..my alzheimers ata nkalimutan nyang kasama ko anak nya na anytime lalabas dahil mag wee wee..gagong yun..NG nga pala apelyido nya..